The good, the bad and the ugly… by Simone Mazin

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During the past few weeks, a lot has been said (and written) about my husband’s distressing experience at a bar in Waterloo. Without wishing to go over old ground, he was initially refused entry into the bar as he had his guide dog Gibson with him. When he tried to argue his case, he was forcibly pushed backwards by security staff. The fact this happened in London in 2016 has highlighted there is a clear need for more disability awareness training. Particularly for ‘front of house’ staff. However, rather than focus on the bad, I would like to talk about the difference it makes when…

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Disability isn’t a Face Value Matter by Holly Williams

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I like to think of myself as a rational, level headed individual, who doesn’t see herself as a victim just because she has a disability.  I also like to believe that most of the prejudice that I and other disabled people face comes purely down to people’s misunderstandings about disability and not deliberate dislike or hatred. But now and again, I will read something that makes me question how able-bodied people really view us and whether there is a hidden agenda out there that believe we are the enemy. This week saw a partial triumph for many disabled people throughout the…

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Thanks to Jing Advanced Massage & Training!

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We would like to say a massive thank you to the team at Jing Advanced Massage & Training for raising a fantastic £1,000 for us by running the Worthing Marathon on Valentines Day. Since Jing make people feel amazing time and time again with their courses and training, they were looking to support a charity that’s also spreading the love and it looks like we fit the bill! We are incredibly moved by this gesture and the passionately raised money will go on to fund inclusive and accessible Sex and Relationships Education (SRE) Resources for disabled young people and their…

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“Three years married and frustrated since my accident…”

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Hey Mik, I just discovered your videos on youtube. I’m 29, female, been C5 tetraplegic for five years now since my accident, three years married and getting quite frustrated cause I still haven’t been able to reach orgasm after the accident. I love my husband and he loves me, but sex still leaves me just relaxed at most. We’ve tried different positions, I’ve tried “thinking myself to it”, but it won’t help. I still have some minor feeling down there, but it’s like having sex while in a rubber suit really, so the sensations are nearly nonexistent. I’ve almost lost hope, but after seeing your videos…

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“Are you happy?” by Wendy Hind

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My father was sitting there, Millennium Eve, with far too many brandy shots, asking me this question.  He died a few years ago.  To this day I have never understood why he found my answer so hard to comprehend. I’m Wendy.  I am 4 ft 9” with Cerebral Palsy.  I have two hearing aids, walk not very far with two sticks.  So far, so descriptive.  My disability does not define my happiness.  I am a high achiever, like my dear papa. Four cats, four guinea pigs.  I drive and I work full time.  I have a house and a husband….

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Disabled and Dateable

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If you were approached in a bar by somebody with a disability how would you feel? If you really think about it can you in all honesty say that you would be 100% comfortable with it; many people admit that they experience a certain level of fear when considering dating a person with a disability, some of this stems from concerns of being more of a carer than a partner whilst others worry about being politically incorrect and offending their potential date. When you examine these worries though, many are often unfounded. Political Correctness Being politically correct is something many…

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Finally a Programme which Depicts the Reality of Having a Cochlear Implant by Claire Holland

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Today, I have finally got around to watching the BBC Alba’s documentary The Switch On which follows the story of 5 cochlear implant patients at Crosshouse Hospital in Kilmarnock. Now I am the first to realise that I am a little late writing about this and I am aware that there have been some fantastic blogs already written and which could be found on the Limping Chicken Deaf Blog here. But as usual I would like to stick my two pennyworths in. Firstly I would like to say how refreshing it was to watch a programme which shows the reality of having a cochlear implant rather…

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Farewell Starman by Holly Williams

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I’m taking a break from my usual disability issues and general soap-boxing, to remember and pay tribute to a remarkable individual who passed away last week, leaving this planet a little less wonderful. David Bowie died of liver cancer on the 9th of January, a few days after his 69th birthday. I heard the news on Monday morning when I turned on TV. Seeing the star’s familiar face, my first thought was that maybe he had a new album out or was touring again. It was only after a few minutes that I heard the tragic news and my reaction…

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To Suffer or Not To Suffer – That Is The Question by Holly Williams

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As a writer, I know that language is a funny thing, especially when it comes to what people find offensive. You can write what you believe to be a totally inoffensive article but because you pick just one wrong word, a word that in your opinion accurately describes a situation, and people will be up in arms. Recently I wrote a piece about a young man who had finally got a job at Asda after 950 rejections. It was based on a story in the Daily Mirror where he was described as a Cerebral Palsy ‘sufferer’ and this is also…

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The Unwatchables by Holly Williams

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There is a particular branch of media known as ‘car-crash entertainment’. Films and TV programmes that for one reason or another cause their audience a masochistic mental torture and yet still have the ability to keep them watching. In fact, one of my favourite podcast is totally dedicated to analyzing and celebrating movies that are eye-wateringly terrible. But also in this category, I would place the Channel 4 series The Undatables which returned to our screens this Monday. It’s series 5 for the show that follows individuals with a variety of conditions as they search for love and romance and while I…

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