A positive outlook

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My name is Alice and I am Belgian. As I am a french speaker, I will certainly make mistakes in this writing. But no worries, I will try not to torture you too much… I have been diagnosed with syringomyelia at about the age of 7. I used to walk normally until I was 4 or 5. Then I gradually lost the strength of my muscles and today, twenty years after the diagnosis, I have been using a wheelchair for about eighteen years now. I feel free since the day I started using an electronic wheelchair, thirteen years ago, in…

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Life shaped by songs

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New blog post from Gavin “Cause I’ve started falling apart I’m not savoring life I’ve forgotten how good it could be to feel alive” These lyrics from the song Machines by Biffy Clyro feel like they really speak to me at the moment, representing how I felt when I woke up this morning. I can write a whole post on feelings of depression but I feel that is for a future post. I have different songs which shall be forever be associated with different points in my life. Songs that feel like they were written specifically for me, for that…

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A turn for the worse

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A couple of weeks ago, my health worsened dramatically and it changed me even more than my body did. The little steps that I walked, the spontaneous dances and my humour were suddenly not the things that characterized me. I tried to stay positive and arranged a wheelchair from an local neighbor renting website. After two days, a lean and friendly man was standing in my doorway to retrieve the wheelchair. With an upbeat voice he said; ‘Hi Naomi, I’m Thomas I heard a lot about you! Are you able to come downstairs to meet my wife Shannon?’ I truly…

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How to actively recruit disabled employees

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So, you’re one of the forward thinking, progressive companies which have recognised that there is a solid business case for employing disabled people. Tapping into a more diverse talent pool should be plain sailing, right? Wrong. Recent studies have shown that this simply isn’t the case. The fact is that if you are unsure of how to actively recruit disabled employees, you’re not alone; many employers, HR personnel and recruiters simply do not know where to start. There is no tried and tested one size fits all formula however there are some simple things that you can put into practice…

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Should I book an escort for a night out?

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Hi Emily, It’s been a while since I felt intimacy with a partner, and it’s bringing me down. Men pay for sex and companionship all the time, but the same thing doesn’t seem as acceptable for women. I’m really thinking of taking the plunge and booking an escort for a night out and then seeing how things go. Have you got any tips for me please? Thanks! M, 27. Hi there, and thanks for writing in to us. I really admire your honesty for talking about what is still a taboo subject for women, especially if they have a disability….

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Seeing past my disability

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Dear Love Lounge, I’m finally getting comfortable with the online dating scene and really enjoying flirting again! I’m really struggling with something though: if a guy I’m talking to suddenly goes quiet, doesn’t reply or doesn’t show up to a date, I always think that it’s got something to do with my disability. How can I get out of this cycle of thinking? It’s driving me mad! Grace Hi Grace. Thanks so much for writing in to us. It’s an interesting question and a tough one to answer, especially as I’ve felt like this numerous times before!! It may sound…

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How to find our if you’re entitled to Access to Work and what you need to do to start the process

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Access to Work is a great initiative for those who require support to start working, continue working or go into self-employment and start a new business. The amount of support you will receive is based on your own personal circumstances and needs, but Access to Work is an additional help to any benefits you may already be receiving. Access to Work focuses on your particular impairment or condition, and how it affects you in the workplace. To be entitled to Access to Work, your additional needs must affect your ability to do a job, or mean that you are in…

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Fatigue and MS – Gavin’s second blog

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I have spent most of the past week procrastinating about what to write my blog post about this week. I keep having ideas ‘I can write about how everyone is the same, regardless of disability, ethnicity, religion, your particular difference’ or ‘disability difficulties and unspoken discrimination’ but I keep giving myself excuses as to why these ideas aren’t suitable, relevant or appropriate. Now rationally, I can reason with myself as to why they are suitable, relevant and appropriate, but it isn’t the rational part of my head that always wins (see my teenage obese years for reference). I do struggle…

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Should I say I have cerebral palsy on my online dating profile?

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Dear Love Lounge, I’ve been trying my hand at online dating, especially after hearing all the hype about Tinder and similar apps. I have cerebral palsy which affects my walking and speech, and I’m not sure how to bring it up to any matches. It’s not something you can see in my photos, and putting something on my profile like ‘I’m wobbly and my speech is weird’ isn’t really going to get me anywhere I don’t think! Do you have any other suggestions? Gaby, 25 Hi Gaby! Love the humour in your message, and thanks for writing into us. It’s…

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Struggling to feel sexy in my wheelchair after my accident

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Hi Emily, I’m writing for some advice. I’m really struggling to feel sexy in my wheelchair after my accident, and feel like everything ‘girly’ and feminine about me is fading away. I don’t want to become that girl that always needs to have the lights off….! Please can you help me? Thanks Stacey, Hi Stacey. Thanks so much for writing into us at the Love Lounge. Coming to terms with a new impairment, and therefore a brand new body, that moves and functions in different ways, can be really tough! Especially tough, in fact, if you can’t do all those…

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