Dear Love Lounge,
I live in the UK and I got to know you through your website.
I have Limb Girdle Muscular Dystrophy and my partner wants to have sex and wants me to have children.
I would like to be advised on the best sex positions meant for a person with LGMD and ways of getting pregnant.
I’m looking forward to your reply.
Thank you for writing to us here at the Love Lounge with your question. Firstly I must say that I have no experience of LGMD, so I cannot be completely specific in my advice. However, I have read about your condition.
From your email, I wasn’t completely sure if you were already having a sexual relationship with your partner or if this was to be new ground for you. Primarily, your concern is to be comfortable and not feel pain during sex. You want to enjoy it too! You will know what positions your body is comfortable in and to what range of movement you have. Additionally, your partner can assist you in the movement and clear communication with them about your comfort is essential. Explain to them prior to doing it, what you think would work for you and ensure you have the confidence that they will listen to you in the throes of passion, should you need to move a limb or such, if it’s becoming too uncomfortable.
If muscle control is difficult for maintaining a position, then a pillow can be a great aid for support. Either resting a leg against it, or wedging it under your hips to elevate your pelvis, can all help with access! There is some furniture and specialised cushions that can help you. Something like this may assist you – Liberator Wedge, Sex Furniture
You won’t enjoy the sex if you’re in pain so please make sure you are comfortable the best you can.
Now to your point about sex positions and pregnancy… well, from asking a midwife, she has assured me that the positions won’t matter! If the sperm is going to find its way up there, it will do so, no matter what way you’ve done it! You may want to lie still for a few minutes after sex to prevent the semen dripping out of you, which may increase the possibility of becoming pregnant.
I hope this has answered some of your questions. For more specifics regarding your condition, I would advise you to discuss with your Consultant as they will be aware of any other health problems that may affect the pregnancy. But from my own research, it appears many women with LGMD cope in their pregnancy and can deliver naturally with assistance. But, obviously, you would be advised by your own doctors.
If you need any more help from us, feel free to be in touch again!
Kind regards and good luck!
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