When it comes to bondage and kink, experienced practitioners will know that even the most advanced sessions require more than gear. It’s all about communication and care, both before and after the event.
Taking your play up a level requires having intentional, informed conversations with your partner about limits, desires, bodily boundaries, and safety. Part of that informed conversation is understanding how the equipment you are using functions, as well as the associated risks. This is especially true when accessibility or mobility may be a factor.
Even at an expert level, you will need to understand how toys work, including mechanisms, pressure points, and setup. It’s important to recognise that you will need to go slowly and listen to any feedback from your body as you become accustomed to new toys. There must be risk-aware planning around any new kink products you introduce, especially at this level.
At the Love Lounge, we know that many disabled and neurodivergent people are not just curious, you are already out there practicing complex kink dynamics. You have asked us for not just reliable resources and events but also places to shop for toys. We’ve partnered with the sexperts at Whipple Tickle, the online sex shop, to offer guidance that goes beyond the basics but delves into a selection of expert-
level toys.
Whipple Tickle is an online shop with one of the most extensive selections of kink,bondage gear, sex toys, lube and lingerie. It houses an incredible 6,500 products! Whether you are curious about ball crushers or interested in impact play, Whipple Tickle makes it easy for you to filter by experience level so you can source toys that match your needs.
You can find Whipple Tickle by visiting their online shop.
This resource will cover products that are, but not limited to, used by expert kink practitioners. These are not beginner items, so they will require experience in their use. There are serious risks associated with using these items that will necessitate further research and education, as well as a focus on safety. There is a separate resource for those interested in beginner or advanced toys.
You can find the beginner resource by visiting our resource page.
Disclaimer: Please be mindful of safety when trying new bondage products for the first time, take the time to research how the toy works, understand any risks, and make sure it’s appropriate for your needs.
Suspension Handcuffs
£199.99
https://www.whippletickle.com/product/the-red-deluxe-leather-suspension-handcuffs
Suspension handcuffs are usually made from fabric or leather. They are designed to help hold a person in place by their wrists. There are many positives to suspension handcuffs, as they offer high sensory engagement for anyone who enjoys deep pressure, restriction, or sensory stimulation.
They can also provide the feelings of being held, confined, or floating, which some people may find euphoric or comforting.
They are designed to distribute weight across wrists and arms while reducing the pressure on joints and being more secure than basic cuffs. If you are interested in full-body suspensions but nervous, this is one way to test the sensations before trying the entire body. This could aid users who have difficulty holding themselves up unaided, or if you want to explore different positions with some physical
support.
Safety considerations: These are not suitable for anyone with joint conditions, chronic pain, hypermobility (Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome), or muscle weakness, as it requires upper body strength. Holding weight, even briefly, might cause injuries or nerve compression in the upper body.
These systems involve doing a bit of structural research as well, around where you plan to use them. This means taking into account the weight of the person involve the distribution of weight, and where to attach them.
This complexity may cause an issue for some neurodivergent people when it comes to planning or calculations. It might also be difficult for anyone with dyspraxia or balance issues.
Suspension can produce feelings of intense pressure, immobility, and vulnerability.
For some neurodivergent people, this can trigger meltdowns or shutdowns. These effects can be intensified by the feeling of not being able to leave the room or move quickly. You will need good communication and safe-words.
In cases of fatigue, fainting or nerve issues, being suspended can be dangerous. Be very attentive to how someone is feeling, or if they appear to be about to faint or struggling with fatigue. They will need to be released immediately.
Electro Power Box Set
Rimba Electro Stimulation Set of Four Pads
£114.99
https://www.whippletickle.com/product/rimba-electro-powerbox-set/
Electro sex stimulators are usually electrical pulse generators that send electrical impulses to the different areas of the body. These can be attached to the body through sticky pads, dildos, cock rings, or sleeves. Electrical pulses can go deep into the skin or muscles, and boxes normally have different settings or intensities to help you achieve this.
Electro pulses can be highly effective for low-effort stimulation, which is beneficial for people experiencing fatigue or with limited mobility. They can also be applied to different body parts or adjusted to accommodate various psychological or physical boundaries.
The sensations are controllable, allowing users to manage the intensity, pulse, or duration which is especially advantageous for neurodivergent individuals or anyone who is sensory seeking.
As these can be placed on the body and left in position, they are great for hands-free play, both solo and partnered. Some users with nerve-related conditions may find it beneficial depending on their needs.
Safety considerations: Test first on safer body parts before moving to anything more intimate to see what sensations you like or if this is for you. Start slow and build up the sensations or duration of use. Whippletickle also offer a beginner powerbox which is a better investment for beginners.
Anyone with pacemakers, epilepsy or heart conditions should avoid using electro stimulation as the impulses may interfere with equipment or cause seizures. Some neurodivergent people may find sudden shocks or changes in patterns to be uncomfortable.
If someone has reduced sensation in certain areas, they may not notice if stimulation becomes too painful or damaging. Placing electrodes across the chest or head can be dangerous, especially if users are unfamiliar with electrical safety.
Nipple Clamps
Black Nipple Clamps
£31.99
https://www.whippletickle.com/product/black-nipple-clamps/
Adjustable nipple clamps can help you to customise the level of pressure on your nipples, which can range from light to intense experiences. Nipple clamps cause pain by pinching the nipple and restricting blood flow. If you enjoy your nipples being pinched or tickled, then you might find yourself enjoying clamps.
Nipple clamps can range in design, colour or shape. They can sometimes come with chains to connect both nipples or as part of an electro pulse set (see above), or have different weights attached to them, designed to add pressure. Some neurodivergent individuals enjoy sensory stimulation or pressure, finding them pleasurable or grounding. They can also provide physical stimulation in a controlled manner that helps focus for people with ADHD. They may enhance body awareness through concentrated sensations.
Nipple clamps can be applied while lying down with minimal movement, which makes them potentially accessible for those with chronic fatigue or limited mobility. They do not require a lot of set-up, just someone to apply them! They can also be used in solo play as well as partnered. They are an easy addition for anyone interested in taking their nipple play to the next level or looking to explore control
or power dynamics.
Start out with lighter nipple clamps that are adjustable using set time limits. You will need to check in frequently to ensure that no one is experiencing pain. It is a great idea to develop verbal and non-verbal signals if needed.
Safety consideration: For some individuals who are sensory averse, the sensations of nipple clamps may be overwhelming. It is worth discussing that sensations from nipple clamps can linger after wear, so they may continue longer than someone expects them to.
Anyone with fibromyalgia, neuropathy or MS may find the clamps too painful or not stimulating enough due to altered pain perception. There can be a risk of injury if someone has numbness or delayed feedback due to neurological conditions. Be mindful of people with conditions that affect connective tissue, as it can lead to excessive bruising or easier tearing.
Non-verbal individuals who have difficulty processing or expressing discomfort may not be able to communicate if they want to stop, especially if they are heading towards a meltdown or shutdown. Safe words, sounds, or gestures, along with regular check-ins, are essential.
Alternative: If you enjoy nipple clamps, there are other toys you can try. Nipple sticks are another option. They look like chopsticks with rubber bands attached where you place the nipple in the centre of the sticks. You can adjust the pressure by using the rubber bands as far away from each other as possible.
https://www.whippletickle.com/product/nipple-sticks/
Smile Gags
Gag with a smile hook
£28.99
https://www.whippletickle.com/product/gag-with-smile-hooks/
A smile gag is an adjustable gag that uses metal hooks that fit into the corners of the mouth to enforce a grin. The forced open-mouth smile can be seen as degrading or submissive. It is usually used in power exchange or medical play. It can give a feeling of vulnerability or helplessness that some find arousing.
Although you should note that there can be quite a lot of drooling involved, you may need to pop down a towel or two!
Smile gags do not require a lot of physical effort to fit or hold in complex positions.
Some neurodivergent people who are sensitive to sensory input may enjoy the intense oral sensations or drool stimulation.
Since speech will be restricted, this can encourage partners to practice non-verbal communication methods such as hand signals, squeezing or tapping with fingers, or blinking to signal any discomfort. This may be beneficial for anyone who has communication impairments or speech difficulties. Smile gags can be used safely if you ensure they are adjustable and adhere to strict time limitations. Also, consider any dental issues.
Safety Considerations: For people with temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ), Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS), dystonia, or muscle weakness, holding the mouth open can cause intense pain, joint dislocation, or fatigue. Similar concerns apply to anyone who experiences spasms or muscle strain.
Autistic people may struggle with oral discomfort or drooling.
Also, anyone who has difficulty swallowing or is on medications that cause dry mouth may be at higher risk of choking. There can be psychological triggers around forced compliance or clinical trauma, especially around dental or medical PTSD.
Make sure that you have a conversation around any potential triggers ahead of time and be prepared to remove the gag immediately if asked or signalled.
Ball Crushers
Metal Penis and Ball Crusher
£49.99
https://www.whippletickle.com/product/metal-penis-and-ball-crusher/
Ball crushers are exactly what they sound like! There are many different types, but most toys will either wedge the scrotum between something or trap it in a cylinder; use lubricant if needed. Screws are then tightened to hold the crusher in place and apply more pressure. There are styles that can be attached to cuffs on wrists or ankles, even those that can be equipped with electrical impulses. These are usually used in BDSM play as a way of exerting control over someone with balls. They are usually involved in play that involves pain and humiliation. Ball crushers can fulfil intense control, domination, submission, humiliation, or masochism fantasies. These are sometimes used in medical play or body exploration, or for those with mechanical kinks.
The ball crushers offer intense sensations with minimal movement required,making them a good option for anyone with mobility issues or chronic fatigue.
Those who are sensory seeking or neurodivergent may enjoy the intense sensations that are localised to one area. It’s worth experimenting with pressure and starting with smaller time limits when trying ball crushers. Verbal and non-verbal safe words are, as always, a must.
Safety considerations: There is a high risk of injury if misused, as testicles are sensitive and prone to damage from excessive or uneven pressure. Anyone with reduced pain perception, spasms or involuntary movements such as tics, MS or nerve damage may not realise the damage being caused by ball crushers.
Some neurodivergent individuals may find the sensations from these crushers too overwhelming and might experience meltdowns or shutdowns. These reactions can complicate removal. Those who are non-verbal or have communication impairments may find it difficult to request their removal if the sensations become too painful.
Disabled people with circulatory issues from diabetes, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome or vascular conditions are at a higher risk of bruising, tissue damage or poor recovery.
Some medications, such as blood thinners, can also elevate bleeding risk.
Testicular pain or control can sometimes trigger past experiences of medical trauma or body dysphoria, especially for trans, intersex or neurodivergent people.
Ensure that you have a conversation about any potential triggers ahead of time and be prepared to remove the crushers immediately if asked or signalled. Having sensory-friendly aids on hand for aftercare is a good idea. This could be weighted blankets, low lighting or quiet spaces.
All the products featured in this resource can be found at whippletickle.com