Sex and Disability
Sex and Disability
Did you know – Disabled people have sex? Disabled people like sex?
Yep. Shocking though it may seem, disabled people are just like, well, everyone, really. Sex is important. We all want to be loved, we all crave a bit of intimacy from time to time and like it or not, we are sexual beings.
Take sex out of the equation and we will quickly start to feel insecure and unattractive. How we judge ourselves is inextricably linked to how we think others perceive us. This is a problem because (and this isn’t much of a secret) disability isn’t sexy.
Watch our short film about sex and disability
The perfect partner
Open almost any magazine and you’ll find an article about what makes for an attractive partner. We all value different qualities – whether it’s intelligence, sense of humour, looks, or financial security.
No one ever says disability. Who wants their disability to be a sexual commodity?
The problem is, we never talk about disability and sexuality in the same sentence. And the result is that people often fear their disability is an active turn-off.
The ‘Nuts’ and ‘Bolts’
Disability can have a profound impact on your sex life, on the way you do it, and also the amount you have it. There are so many barriers facing disabled people who want to have an active sex life:
- Self confidence
- Self esteem
- Finding a partner
- Overcoming physical and emotional barriers
In fact, all those same barriers apply to anyone wanting an active sex life. The difference however for disabled people is that no one seems to want to talk about sex and disability.
Targeted sex education for young disabled people is practically non existent. Support for couples coming to terms with disability and the impact it has on their relationship is thin on the ground. We talk to disabled people every day who are struggling to access basic sexual health services, such as STI screening.
So what are we going to do about it?
We want better access and provision to sex education and sexual health services. Therefore we are working with Brook to make sure that young disabled people have access to the same advice and support as their peers and we started the Undressing Disability Campaign
The Love Lounge
We have created an area where you can ask us any questions you want regarding sex and disability including topics like – relationship advice, dating, meeting people, coming out as gay – whatever the question is, ask our experts Mik, Brittany and Andrew for their advice.
Want to help?
It’s the little things that count. We have to stop the stigma. The best way we can achieve this is by talking openly, honestly and from the heart. Share your experiences of disability and dating with us and write on our blog.