Ever wanted to go to a sex-positive party, kink night or fetish event but not really sure how? Don’t worry, you are not alone as it can be really daunting to go to your first event let alone sorting out accessibility or what to wear.
There has been a growth in the number of open-minded, queer-friendly, accessible and sex-positive events in the past year. Everywhere from Leeds to London is getting their best harness on and heading out.
Judging the accessibility of events is difficult. By nature, these events are pop-ups that move from venue to venue. The best thing to do is to research and contact the organisers ahead of time. Keeping an eye on their social pages is a great way to stay ahead of any updates or venue changes.
Here is our guide to getting started with sexy events and where to find them.*
Cabaret Identitease
It can be scary going from zero to sex parties so burlesque is a great place to start out or if you prefer a bit of a tease! Cabaret Identitease is a burlesque night with a difference. The group are queer, disabled cabaret performers.
If you fancy getting involved, the group also offer seated burlesque workshops. The events change location but there are often detailed access lists on their page which can be downloaded ahead of the event.
Pinky Promise World
A collective of sensual, hedonistic pleasure seekers who organise parties, workshops, cabaret shows and festival stages. From Wilderness to Shambala, from sex-positive play parties, Pinky Promise is a safe space to explore sensuality. Pinky Promise is a great way to dip your toes into the sex-positive scene.
Pinky Promise hosts parties at festivals and club spaces across the UK and also Europe.
Visit the Pinky Promise website
Sexquisite
Sexquisite sell-out shows across London, Manchester and Bristol using their unique blend of art as activism. They are committed to offering sex workers creative work and using the platform to enact change. Previous sexy events have included sex worker pride, Club Sexquisite and panel discussions on the importance of building a community for sex workers.
Visit the Sexquiste website
Quench London
“Quench London isn’t just a kink party; it’s a euphoric journey through the heart of London’s vibrant culture,” according to the organisers. A queer party extravaganza that blends chaos with control while centring queer, kinky, of colour, trans, neurodivergent, disabled and bodies of all sizes.
Quench is an intentional space, created out of a need for more diversity and representation in the kink scene. It’s also a lot of fun and a good way to experience the kink scene without it being too overwhelming.
Visit the Quench London website
Slut Social
Slut Social is committed to making affordable safer spaces for sex-positive women and non-binary people. It’s not just about the party but workshops and education too. It has become a community where you can find events from online panel discussions around ADHD and polyamory to rope-tying workshops in secret locations in London.
Visit the Slut Social Instagram
Joyride
Joyride is a space to rave, play and connect while prioritising pleasure and exploration. If you are looking for a hot, sweaty dancefloor with custom-designed playrooms and electronic beats then look no further.
The wonderful Joyride can be found at Corsica Studios in London which has an impressive accessibility checklist. You can apply for PA tickets, there is step-free access and accessible viewing platforms. You can access the list by visiting the Corsica website access page or email info@joyriderave.com for more information.
Visit the Joyride event page
Know about a wonderful party or want to send us your own event information? Get in touch at hello@enhancetheuk.org.
*Please keep in mind that due to the nature of these events (pop-ups), they may change venue. We have not printed the accessibility in place for each venue but have marked where it is accessible on their site. Head to their social media and/or website and get in touch to find out latest dates and access.
Want more information on attending sex positive parties? Read our Love Lounge advice page where our resident sexpert Zoe answers a question asking for advice