Hi Mik and Emily,
I have a physical disability and use a wheelchair every so often. If not, I walk on crutches. I’ve recently just come out of a long term relationship with someone who I thought was ‘it’. I’m feeling pretty low and don’t really know where to start! Can you give me some advice please?
Sorry to hear of your break up, it’s really tough when things finish with someone we care about so much, and if you have a disability that upset and stress about moving on can be even more difficult to deal with. My advice? Don’t worry too much about starting to date again just yet, the likelihood is is that it’ll take you a good few months, and maybe even a year or so to get over your ex (rubbish, I know!) Just focus on you – see your friends, go out to those places that you maybe didn’t visit so much when you were in a relationship and remember all the things you’re passionate about and you love; I can guarantee there’s much more to you then just the person who was by your side!!
When it does come to dating again, and it will, take it slow and be true to yourself. Disclosure your disability on your online profile if you want to, don’t if you don’t feel like it, but I would suggest answering honestly to any questions that are asked; you’ll feel better for being truthful. Don’t be afraid to reinvent yourself either – wear that bold lippie or dye your hair a crazy colour, why not!? Someone is bound to find you attractive when you’re just having fun J