Love it or hate it, it’s most certainly not going anywhere. This month’s ‘Position of the Month’ is more about opinion than instruction, and it’s all about watching strangers shagging on the internet (doesn’t sound quite so sexy when I put it like that, does it?)

My use of porn confuses me a little, and I wonder if anyone else feels the same. This is most certainly not the time to go into the morality and ethics of the industry but, weirdly, my morals and ethics around porn seem to change depending on my relationship status. When I’m single, I’m quite the fan, carefully scrolling through sites until a thumbnail or caption draws me in. I’ll very happily switch between videos until one really tickles my fancy and gets me the result I’m after. But I’ve been in a relationship for almost two years now, and I’m pretty certain I can count on one hand the amount of times I’ve watched it since going Facebook Official. But why?!? Granted, I’ve got all the good sex I want on tap, but there’s still something interesting and exciting (and a bit smutty) about porn that I’m just tapping into less regularly now.

And don’t get me started on watching it with your partner. We tried that once, with both of us in the mood and me mentioning one of my ‘go to’ favourites. What followed was awkward commentary and giggles and possibly one of the least sexy experiences I’ve had. Because, as exciting and smutty as porn is, there’s something strangely vulnerable about it too. When you suggest something to watch, you’re suggesting fantasties and preferences your partner might not know about, or interests that might, quite simply, just not be up their street at all. It’s the pressure of choosing the Netflix binge on an early date, times a hundred and with all your clothes off.

What is your position on porn? Have you had similar experiences? Is it a normal, regular habit, and exotic sexual adventure, or just one smutty step too far?

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