Firstly, is there anyone else in your group home with a double bed?
YES – Go to that person and ask them how they got the double bed, particularly the exact person who approved it. Then go to the person who has the power to approve a double bed and make a note of the resident’s top tips about how they were successful.
But if NO and you are the first person to ask for a double bed, ask the staff who has the power to approve a double bed. Now it is time for some preparation before you meet them.
Next, imagine stepping into the shoes of the general manager of your home and picture that you have a resident asking for a double bed.
Since this is the first time this has happened, imagine the questions they will ask and especially the things that might make them say yes or no. For example, some questions that spring to my mind: Are they scared a resident could be taken advantage of by a staff member? Is there not enough space in the home as you will need a private room?
Also, does the company that runs the home have any policies on the rights of residents?
Would it help to have someone in the meeting to support you like your best friend or the girlfriend/boyfriend who will be sleeping with you in the double bed? Perhaps they can help you prepare your arguments?
Finally, you should call Enhance the UK as they can give you supporting evidence of residents in care homes with double beds.
Good Luck! With good preparation you might be surprised at how quickly you have a double bed to Enhance your sex life!
When I was in hospital in my own room and my wife and I asked for some “private time,” it was really easy. They just gave me a “do not disturb” sign and we used a single bed for sex.
I was impressed by how accommodating and not squeamish they were, but not all homes will have the same open attitude soEnhance the UK can advise you on your rights.